You might be thinking…what is sensual play and how is it different than foreplay?
Sensual play is really all the things that you do with your partner for pleasure.
Foreplay has a sort of connotation that it is followed by sex. It’s a means to an end. I feel it actually can be a little stressful. Say for instance you just want to be rubbed, caressed, kissed on, cuddled with and that after that you HAVE to have sex. Not a great feeling.
This is where sensual play comes in. It’s the whole shabang. The knitty -gritty. The beginning and the end.
If that’s what you want, of course.
Now that we have a frame of reference of where I’m coming from, I have FIVE ways sensual play can upgrade your intimacy.
Learn your partner’s likes and dislikes
Your partner will learn yours too! I’m not going to leave you out! During this time of all that loving on each other you should be learning about where and how you both like your pleasure. Did you figure out that behind the left leg is their hot spot? Or maybe they hate when you lick on their ears. For me, I can not stand my feet/toes licked in anyway. Ugh, squishy feet? Hard Pass! But if my partner never went there AND I never told him that I didn’t like it who knows what could have been the end result.
Helps you get relaxed
When you first come home after a long day can you just jump all in to getting it in? Most of us can’t. When you’re having sexual play with your partner it gives you a chance to wind down. It gives your body a chance to warm up to touch.
Starts the arousal process
Have you ever noticed that if you rushed into sex it wasn’t always as pleasurable as it could be? That’s because your body wasn’t ready. If you have a vulva there’s certain things that your body naturally does to get ready for the get down.
First thing is lubrication. Your vagina and vulva naturally are going to get wetter the more aroused you are. I’m not saying you’ll always be Niagara Falls wet, but there will be some moisture. and if all else fails you can use some lube like Slick or Slide to get that WAP!
The vagina also elongates when you become aroused. Your body is super smart and it knows that “something” might be coming on in, so it gets ready for what’s to come.
Also blood flow to all of your genitals is going to increase. Think of a penis, when it gets erect it’s because blood has entered into the shaft and made it erect. That makes the gland more sensitive, which increases pleasure. It’s the same thing with a clitoris. There’s erectile tissue in your clit, just like a penis. When there’s more blood flowing to your clit, it also is going to be more sensitive.
Shows your partner you desire them
I love when my partner wants to rub and kiss all over me. It makes me feel really sexy and desired. Validation from a partner feels great, displayed in action or words. So go ahead and rub on them out the blue. I’m sure you’ll get a smile!
Explore new things
A fun thing to do during sensual play is to try something new. Introducing a new style of touch or some new accessory can add a different dynamic to your intimate time. Trying something of the kinky persuasion can be exciting. You don’t have to break out the St. Andrews cross, but a simple pair of handcuffs will introduce power dynamics.
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